Proverbs in 365 Devotions
Proverbs 5:18 Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, 19 a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love. 20 Why should you be intoxicated, my son, with a forbidden woman and embrace the bosom of an adulteress?
by Brad Chase
Today’s passage is chalk full of good stuff. Each thought a devotion on it’s own. We could discuss verse 19 and how it says “ let her breasts fill you at all times.” And how when you fill your car with gas, you don’t put $20 in and call it good. No, to fill or be full is to have no room left. To top it off. Not another drop. And to always be full is to never have room for more. Our wife’s breast (beauty in all areas) is to fill us up so much that there is no room and no need for anyone else’s breast or beauty.
Or we could talk about being intoxicated by her love. How the church generally frowns on the word intoxicating as it generally applies to an excess use of alcohol. But to be intoxicated by her love is to be overwhelmed and influenced by the love of your wife.
Or we could discuss the adulteress woman and how today that is not just a woman in the same vicinity as you. In today’s society, the adulteress women are women on the screen of computers, phones, TVs and magazines. We could discuss how Jesus says in Matthew 5:28 But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
But these things (though good, Godly and true) are not what has caught my attention. What stands out is that this is a man speaking to his son. A set of instructions are being delivered. Think in terms of building a piece of furniture. You don’t build it and then read the directions. Or baking a cake. You don’t make the cake and read the ingredients as it is baking. These are things to read and know before the time comes to act.
I teach a Sunday school that is a mix of 3rd and 4th grade boys and girls. I presented this passage to them with slight wording changes to keep it suitable for the age group. I then asked if it applied to them. The answer was a unanimous no because they are not married. I then threw out the obvious connection with the 7th commandment (do not commit adultery) and asked if this applied to them. Their answer had changed, but they couldn’t figure out why or how. They knew all the commandments applied to them but couldn’t figure out this one. I explained it on the level of kissing. You only get one first kiss. If you give your first kiss away to someone random, you actually hurt 4 people. Yourself, your spouse to be. The person who’s first kiss you took and their spouse to be.
No. These kids are not ready for marriage, sex, the adulteress women. They cringed when I said kiss. They believe in cooties. But! It is important as parents that we don’t shy away from these messages. If they aren’t taught to bake a cake, run a saw, drive a car or disarm a bomb before it’s time to act, the results will be disastrous when the time comes and relationships are no different.