Proverbs in 365 Devotions
Proverbs 20:11 Even a child makes himself known by his acts, by whether his conduct is pure and upright.
Watching Our Children
Make Themselves Known
Oh, our children… how precious a gift… how disruptive to our life… And the thing is… they are all born with differences… in looks yes except for identical twins… but also differences in personalities… They are sooo unique! Dissimilar in strengths and weaknesses… not only in the physical but mental traits as well and how they think things through… not better or worse but different. The imprint of these characteristics and attributes can play a major role in what our children will be suited for in life as well as the kinds of things they will enjoy or detest.
So those things are important… and yet they may change depending on how they are brought up and what they associate themselves with in life… This can be a good thing or a horrible thing.
Something else to add into the equation: We are all born broken into a broken world. What does that bring to the makeup of our life? Well, we are born with a bent towards sin… And more specific, we are born with varied predispositions that are stronger than others. Certain things begin to pull at our children’s heart strings and for watching parents who ask the Lord for discerning eyes they can see.
Some traits from our brokenness you may notice in your child at an early age could include a learning disability associated with the physical body or they may have difficulty with social skills. Hyperactivity is another. We are born with many physical brokenness's which always have some potential to pull us towards sin in some way. Some physical problems can be overcome by physical things like doctors and medicines but others require the great physician.
Some things a parent can watch for in their child early on are things like patterns of lying or bullying. A screamer… a stealer… a hitter… or one who harms themselves. Watch for an early pulls towards sexuality to the opposite or same gender. Watch for a child who always runs away and hides from conflict. I think some of these things hit children across the board but the longer any of them are a routine… or pattern it is more likely that piece of brokenness will hard set itself deep within them.
Remember I said how we are not bound to all the dispositions we were born with? We become like the things that we soak up from our associations… What we hear and the examples we see. It doesn’t always soak in… But if the child does not veil the good associations out it will. So good parents can fight against the brokenness by teaching the truth of Gods word like how Jesus is eternally more satisfying than the perversions of sin… He is the greatest treasure in the Universe.
The truth is this: seeing the beauty of Jesus is what transforms us first as a new creation and then the seeing of more of his beauty continues the transformation progress.
2nd Corinthians 3:18 And we all, with unveiled face, beholding the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from one degree of glory to another. For this comes from the Lord who is the Spirit.
So yes, we are not bound to our brokenness.
And do we as parents hold any responsibility? Of course we do. As our children make themselves known by their acts… whether good or bad as our text indicates… We show them the good truth in Gods word of how he fixes our brokenness.